Welcoming first a child into a family is really a special event, one that is surrounded with lots of worry, some fear, excitement and overpowering joy.
At the same time there are the practicalities of looking after your wife, newborn, pets and the household in general . All require care, attention and time. Nappies need to changed, hugs and support given, plants watered, dishes cleaned, pets fed etc. It’s a big stress, with lots of balls to be juggled.
Despite being short on sleep, I like this type of busyness, you’re focused on providing tangible service (comfort) to people you most care about and get almost instant feedback whether you’re doing it good.
Speaking of focus, it narrows to almost unbelievable level. All I’m focused on is the baby and the needs of my family. It’s a bit strange to do just that one thing (with hundreds of moving parts) and be constantly occupied by it.
From time to time I get the flashbacks of what it was before, what I was able to do, see, spend time on. To be honest it can be a bit frustrating but it goes away quite quickly as it makes me realise how scattered my focus was before.
All in all, I think that’s good, the arrival of my first baby will result in some very significant changes and they will be for the better. The required attention and effort that needs to be provided leaves me with very little free time which in turn forces me to think what is important in the given moment. Is it running, writing for this site, reading blogs etc? Frankly all that was set a side.
Deep down I know I can do all of that, although I have to accept I can only do one thing at a time (maybe be two if I’m lucky and stick with GTD).
To finish this post I would like to point you to very good episode of Weekly Briefly Podcast -Platform Juxtaposition, where Shawn Blanc talks about focus, platforms, creativity and inspiration. It was a great companion to a number of chores that I did this morning.